"Dear Ifu, I'm glad that you're building a community where people can get help and support themselves. I have an issue I'd like to share with you and your readers. I'd also like your advice on this.
Everything I want to talk about is summed into this question "What is the role of man in a relationship?" I've been in a love relationship with an older guy who's doing quite well, but I don't seem to be getting anything off it. Don't get me wrong I'm not a leach girlfriend (the kind of girls you talked about in a previous article),
I would never ask a man for money because I'm quite independent...but this man doesn't do anything for me! I've know him for 3yrs, but he has never bought me a single birthday gift, let alone a surprise gift. I look at how other girls in a relationship function and I wonder why mine can't be that way. Some of my girlfriends got their first car as a gift from their men, but my 2 cars have no tie or connection to my so called boyfriend.
My girlfriends go on vacation with their men, but my man would only go on a vacation if I'm the one paying...
Lately he's been talking about marriage, but I'm not sure what my response should be. Will he expect me to pay for our wedding? Please give me your honest opinion and I'd like to read this on your blog to see people's response. Thanks"
- Anonymous
This came in not too long ago and.as always I've replied, but it's time for everyone to share their thoughts.
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Pls kindly QUIT!!! He has seen u all as in he feels u already hav enuff so no need of spendn further on u.ma dear dnt even expect him to change cos he wil NEVA!!! U wil even see worst wen u guys gt married so d choice is urs. Dere r many fishes in d river..
ReplyDeleteI hope she reads this...
DeleteTotally off point ifu but im sorry for posting. ..
ReplyDeletepls any idea of where to get braces? Affordability is koko.plus the duration et al. Many thanks dear
I really don't know dear...could help you check
DeleteBefore making any decision, I will advice u talk to him abt his attitude and am pretty sure his response will make ur decision a lot easier..U can't tell, he might think u have it all based on ur own attitude also 'maybe' (pride) plus sometimes u need to ask before it can be given..
ReplyDeleteBefore making any decision, I will advice u talk to him abt his attitude and am pretty sure his response will make ur decision a lot easier..u can't tell, he might think u have it all based on ur attitue also 'mayb' (pride) plus sometimes u need to ask before it can be given..
ReplyDeleteGood advice...
DeleteMy dear, take off your shoes and run. Don't think of settling down with him cos you will end up paying all d bills. He does not love you. He is in love with your money. Don't be suprise to hear that he has a girl somewhere that he gives money and gifts. *Be Wise*
ReplyDeleteWell... for me, i think a the role of a man in a relationship is first a companion, then he takes charge and the woman his help meet according to the bible. A man should also be a provider... provide emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially etc in no particular order. A man who cannot take care of his household is worse than an infidel (bible again). As for a man who hasn't bought you even a birthday gift in 3 years of dating should be talked to. Find out why he acts and thinks the way he does. His perception about life may be different from yours and communications would help here. Secondly, have you bought him any gift? Cos if you buy something for him from time to time, one day his sense will tell him to also buy even chewing gum for you sef. Anyhoo first talk to him.
ReplyDeleteRole of a man in a relationship is to cheat and parade his fine gf who takes cares of her sef nd look gud wit out askin him 4 a dime cos if she does he begins to fight nd complain. My sister advice ur sef stop being a sex workout manchine 4 d guy just carry ur money nd look 4 a cool headed guy.
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