Relationships: When do you say "enough is enough"?

"I suffered insomnia for a long time after my marriage broke up. It was due to depression and confusion and fear of tomorrow. I was stressed out. But then I started taking time to rest and my sleep pattern returned to normal..."

The above comment was left by a reader under one of my blog post and the first two sentences got me sad and got me thinking...


First of all it seems like breakups are top on the list of "2014 famous trends". From Ciara and future's breakup, to Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon. Let's not forget Paula and Robin Thicke who actually threw a divorce party after his ex filed for divorce. The breakup virus has also affected famous Nigerians like Pastor Chris Oyakhilome and Pastor Anita.

So my question is when do you say "enough is enough" and pull the trigger on your relationship or marriage?

When I hear or read about seperations, breakups and divorce I get scared a lot and I feel sad for the partner who's most affected by it. I try to imagine the factors responsible for the breakup and what measures the people involved took in order to avoid what is now their reality, but I never totally get it.

I remember the story of a family I used to be close to. The husband left his wife broken because he couldn't stand his joblessness and the deep troubles it had brought his young family. I was surprised when the wife told me he had packed, left a note and didn't return. He's still not returned as I write this post. When I remember how happy they used to be and how that happiness shined on everyone around them, I'm just left to wonder...

I've never really been a victim of a marriage/ relationship separation, but I know the pain of losing someone dear. I know it's hard to move on.

I helplessly watched my brother die in front of me when I was 10 and unlike marriage and relationship breakups I didn't have the chance to beg him to stay...but we're not even talkin my own story now.

I hate sad endings, I never give up on someone easily and I hate to think that things can't be resolved without leaving people hurting, but things go wrong and sh*t happens.

So tell me guys, when do you say enough is enough and walk away forever? Have you ever suffered a major breakup or did you narrowly escape one? What can be done to avoid separations and experience a happy ending in a relationship? What will you say are the major causes of breakups? I'd say cheating and lack of communication, but don't they have some kind of antidote?

Please leave your comments and suggestions below.

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